Opening the borders: Open-relationship

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Long term relationships between gay people are rare to see. Certainly to maintain this relationship could also be quite difficult from time to time. I have really been wondering where and how the concept of “open relationship” was born, at this very point. Is it an inevitable situation for especially gay couples to maintain a long term loving partnership? Or is it simply a part the “open-mindedness” of the gay crowd to be free and independent while keeping the same partner for a life time?

What I have been witnessing lately is actually almost all the long-term-gay-couples have an open relationship. I’m not here to discuss the sexual health risk here. But I can tell this really works for most of the couples to make their relationship live longer either playing it together or separately or both.

At this point I can’t help thinking where we put term “sexuality” and “sharing our partner with others” in our lives. My very personal view is that I don’t have the right the possess my partner with his whole being and his body and sexuality is definitely a part of this possession. He should have the freedom to play the game of sexuality as he likes exactly the same way I live my own sexuality. As a matter of fact, as long as I know that love, intimacy and affection all stays there between us, I don’t actually care where he gets his sexual needs fulfilled. This is more like we don’t have to eat all our dinners together for a life time. Because when I turn to myself, I see there is actually no change in my love and affection against him even though I might have sex with others. To be honest I feel even more love and affection.

I just wanted to share my ideas but certainly I have no intention to promote open relationship. This is completely between that two people to decide. So what do you people think about open-relationship?

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